Faith, Culture and the Great Wedding Dilemma

Look, I don’t know what you believe in, and honestly, that’s none of my business. 

What really matters here is what I believe. 

And I believe, without a doubt, in the one true Creator, the mastermind behind the entire universe, the stars, the oceans, and yes, even mosquitoes (though I do have some questions about that last one).

I also believe that this Creator sent His only Son to show us the way. And you know who else has guided me? 

The people before me. My father, for instance, his wisdom, his experiences, and his faith have shaped the way I see the world. 

So, tell me, why on earth would I dismiss his teachings just because someone told me that "modernization" means copying everything foreign? 

That would be like saying, "Hey Dad, thanks for raising me, but I’m switching to a new parenting manual from Instagram." Makes no sense, right?

Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m not here to bash anyone’s beliefs. 

I’m not saying Christianity isn’t deeply rooted in our history. 

I’m just saying, before we go discarding our traditions like expired yogurt, let’s actually stop and think. 

What does it mean to truly worship? 

What does it mean to preserve our culture? 

Are we making informed decisions, or are we just blindly following trends that don’t fit who we are?

Because let’s be real, when we throw away our heritage without understanding its value, we’re not just losing touch with the past. 

We’re robbing our kids and grandkids of something precious. 

At the same time, if we completely ignore Christianity, we risk inviting chaos, the kind of chaos that turns societies upside down, blurring the lines between right and wrong.

Look at the Jews, for example. 

These folks have held onto their traditions for thousands of years, even though Christianity itself came out of their own story. 

But here we are, as Africans, often eager to drop our own traditions like a hot potato in favor of whatever is trending globally. 

And half the time, we don’t even stop to ask: Does this even make sense for us?

Take weddings, for instance. 

Who decided that if we don’t have a white wedding, we’re not properly married? 

Did Jesus say, "Verily, thou shalt exchange vows in a cathedral and sign government documents, or else it doesn’t count"? 

No! 

But somehow, we’ve convinced ourselves that a church or court wedding is the "proper" way, while our own traditional marriage customs get treated like a formality.

And let’s talk about monogamy. 

If the whole point of these Western-style weddings is to promote monogamy, then why do we see so much infidelity and divorce? 

Funny enough, the cultures that brought these customs to us now lead the world in divorce rates, and here we are, following them like lost sheep.

Let’s be honest:

Not every man wants multiple wives.

Personally, I’m perfectly happy with one woman who truly loves me. 

That’s my choice. 

But some men may feel differently, and guess what? 

That’s their choice. 

If given the freedom, many men would still choose monogamy, not because society forces them to, but because they actually want to.

Yet here we are, treating white weddings like the ultimate relationship insurance policy. 

Spoiler alert: They are not. In fact, these elaborate weddings have become so expensive that many hardworking men are running away from marriage altogether. 

And let’s be real, marriage as it currently stands seems to favor women a lot more than it benefits men.

To my sisters out there, know your worth. Marriage isn’t an achievement. 

A big wedding doesn’t guarantee happiness. Don’t pressure a man into a white wedding thinking it will lock him down forever. 

If a man genuinely wants to commit, you’ll know before you start picking out matching outfits for pre-wedding photoshoots.

And if you don’t believe me, just look around. Public figures like Yul Edochie and others have shown us that even the most extravagant white weddings don’t prevent problems in a marriage. 

Instead, they often set up a weird kind of "reverse psychology", the more you try to control someone, the more they want to break free. It’s like putting a goat in a fenced area. Suddenly, the grass outside starts looking a whole lot greener.

At the end of the day, we need balance. We need to think for ourselves instead of just copying whatever everyone else is doing. 

We can honor our faith, preserve our culture, and create a future that actually works for us, not one that leaves us confused, broke, and disappointed.

So, take a moment. 

Reflect. 

And may God bless you as you do.